Thursday, March 21, 2019

An invitation from a new friend


In my previous post, I wrote about homesickness. My way of overcoming a longing for another place and people is involving myself with the place I’m in and the people I’m around. There’s an old song about that—something about loving the one you’re with. It applies here, but not in the way the song originally intended.

Exploring is one of my favorite things to do. I love it. Seeing new things, meeting new people, and learning about everything around me is my happy place. In the U.S., I go new places frequently and don’t really give it a lot of thought. In China, I’m much more hesitant. This afternoon, I followed a known routine. I took the subway to a familiar place, bought groceries, and returned to campus. While I was out, though, a wonderful thing happened. One of the international students, Jamal from Pakistan, invited me to go to the night market with him. I was thrilled!

Jamal is a 25-year-old graduate student from a small town in northern Pakistan. He is the youngest of seven children and is avoiding adult responsibilities by going to graduate school in China. I learned so much tonight! We talked about media representations of Pakistan and travel within the country. He educated me about his practice of the Muslim faith and arranged marriage. He talked about his mother, niece, and nephew. I told him about my husband and children. We laughed and told stories about being foreigners and agreed that living in China was an awesome opportunity that had to be seized when it was available.

The market was super cool but learning about a new person in a new place was even cooler. It was incredibly kind of Jamal to invite me on an adventure. I so appreciate the invitation and enjoyed every minute learning about my new friend.


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